What is True Closure and How to Achieve It

Understanding Closure

• 💡 The concept of closure is often misunderstood as a pop psychology term, frequently framed as something interactive that requires another person.
• 🎯 People typically seek closure when they have negative emotions about an interaction that involved others, believing that talking to an ex, boss, or parent will resolve their feelings.
• 🔑 This desire stems from the belief that others cause our feelings and can therefore solve them, leading to a need for interaction to achieve a positive emotional state.

False Paths to Closure

• 🧠 One common misconception is that understanding why someone acted a certain way will bring closure, often meaning a desire to know their reasons or convince them to change their perspective.
• 🗣️ Another false path is seeking an apology or acknowledgement from the other person, believing their agreement with your interpretation of events is necessary to feel better.
• ⚠️ Both of these are lies because our emotions are caused by our own thoughts about events, not by the actions or reasons of others.

The Real Nature of Closure

• ⏳ Closure is not about understanding past events or receiving apologies; it's about achieving emotional resolution from our thoughts about the past.
• 🕊️ True peace is the absence of suffering, resistance, and the desire for things to have happened differently.
• 🧩 Closure is essentially the act of stopping resistance to reality and making peace with circumstances exactly as they occurred.

Creating Your Own Closure

• 🔑 Closure must be created by oneself, as no one else can provide it.
• 🚫 Constantly thinking about a situation or reliving painful thoughts does not lead to closure; it only perpetuates suffering.
• ✅ To achieve closure, you must stop believing all your thoughts about an event, cease resisting reality, and accept that things happened as they had to.
• 🌟 Believing that whatever happened had to happen, due to everyone's