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Therapist Reacts to 90 Day Fiancé: The Last Resort - Actual Therapy Session

Psychology In SeattleDecember 11, 202532 min5,180 views
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Natalie's Self-Awareness and Conflict with Josh

  • 💡 Natalie demonstrates self-awareness and humility by acknowledging she "screwed up" and was "mean" to Josh, leading to his departure.
  • 🧠 The therapist notes Natalie's stability in handling guilt, contrasting it with potential meltdowns, but reminds viewers she initiated the conflict.
  • 🎯 Natalie expresses a desire to understand Josh better, highlighting their communication differences: he is calm, and she is emotional.

Therapist's Approach and Concerns

  • ⚠️ The therapist expresses concern about the depth and time required for Natalie's issues, potentially exceeding the scope of the show's format.
  • 💬 The therapist aims to get to know Natalie to build rapport, acknowledging that Natalie fears entering the room with a "group of enemies."
  • 🚀 The therapist probes deeper, suggesting something more profound is at play beyond the immediate conflict, possibly related to past experiences.

Exploring Past Trauma and Bullying

  • 🧠 Natalie identifies childhood bullying as a significant trauma, where she was blamed for things and, due to her emotional nature, could never prove her innocence.
  • 🧩 The therapist explains the difference between experiencing trauma and developing PTSD, cautioning against eliciting traumatic memories without proper preparation.
  • 🎯 Natalie describes being bullied by peers who threw gum in her hair, leading to feelings of shame and self-blame, internalizing the victim-blaming.

Core Beliefs and Healing

  • 💡 The therapist identifies core beliefs in Natalie, such as "I'm not good enough" and "I don't deserve to be loved," potentially stemming from foundational childhood trauma predating the bullying.
  • 💔 The therapist suggests that bullying can be as devastating as other traumas, especially when chronic, significantly impacting development.
  • ✅ The therapist proposes desired beliefs for Natalie: "I am good enough" and "I am loved," which could positively influence her relationships.

Therapeutic Interventions and Future Steps

  • 🌟 The therapist notes that while the session is not a "breakthrough," it's a crucial step in identifying areas of trauma to work on, emphasizing that healing takes time.
  • 🗣️ The therapist suggests Natalie share her experiences and vulnerabilities with Josh, framing trauma as the
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