The Psychology of a Lack of Self with Dr. Kirk Honda and Bob

Understanding the Concept of Self

• 🧠 The episode delves into the concept of self, its development, and what it feels like to experience a lack of self or purpose.
• 💡 The discussion explores the existential aspects of life, focusing on how individuals develop their sense of self and the challenges associated with finding purpose.
• ⚠️ It is noted that fears of rejection and the desire not to hurt others can lead to suppressing one's emerging self.

The Utility of Self

• 🎯 A key phrase explored is, "I'm not sure I exist outside my own utility," which highlights a common struggle for individuals, particularly those who were mistreated growing up.
• 🛠️ Many people, especially those who experienced mistreatment, focus on being utilitarian and useful to others as a survival mechanism, often neglecting their own desires and needs.
• 🤔 This utilitarian approach stems from a lack of opportunity or space to explore personal wants and aspirations, leading to the feeling of not knowing what one truly desires out of life.

Personal Development and Relationships

• 💬 The conversation touches upon personal experiences and conflicts within relationships, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and learning from these interactions.
• 🤝 The hosts, Dr. Kirk Honda and Bob, discuss their 22-year friendship and professional relationship, highlighting their shared experiences in graduate school and their practices as therapists.

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• 🔒 This episode is exclusively for patrons of the Psychology In Seattle Podcast due to its deeply personal and clinical nature.
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