The Demonic Dogfish: Spiritual Manipulation, Revenge Porn, and Coercive Control

A Chilling Romance with a Demonologist

• 💡 Stella met Damon, a self-proclaimed "demonologist," who initially charmed her with roses and intense affection, a tactic she later recognized as love bombing.
• ⚠️ Despite initial attraction and shared interests, Stella experienced significant anxiety and physical sickness around Damon, a strong intuitive feeling that something was wrong.
• 🚩 Early red flags included Damon's intense focus on demonology, his claims of performing black magic, and his unusual interpretation of intimate moments as blood rituals.

Escalation to Coercive Control

• 📍 Damon insisted on sharing locations early in the relationship, citing safety concerns as a Black man, but Stella felt it was a sign of control.
• 🗣️ He exhibited intense jealousy and possessiveness, becoming enraged when Stella spoke to a masculine-presenting non-binary person, viewing it as a disrespectful threat.
• 📱 A major turning point was Damon posting a manifesto about Stella on Tumblr with her eyes cut out, a deeply unhinged and violating act that escalated his controlling behavior.

Physical Abuse and Revenge Porn

• 🚗 A horrific car accident, where Damon was driving without a license, resulted in Stella's car being totaled and her sustaining injuries, yet Damon framed it as a trauma bond.
• 💔 Stella finally ended the relationship after Damon physically grabbed her by the throat, a clear act of physical abuse that crossed her hard line.
• 💻 Following the breakup, Stella discovered Damon had posted numerous non-consensual intimate videos and images of her on FetLife, a fetish website, and potentially other platforms.

The Legal and Emotional Aftermath

• ⚖️ Stella reported the revenge porn to the police and FetLife, but faced significant challenges due to the legal system's perceived lack of urgency, the difficulty of proving non-consent, and the potential for her own past consensual content to be used against her.
• 🚫 The legal process offered little recourse, with the best-case scenario being a misdemeanor for Damon, and the risk of further retaliation, including potential physical harm, making legal action daunting.
• 😔 Stella feels powerless and violated, struggling with the emotional toll and the realization that many other women may be victims of Damon's actions without their knowledge, highlighting the need for better website verification and stronger laws against non-consensual intimate imagery.

Seeking Peace and Justice

• 🚶‍♀️ Despite the trauma, Stella has moved and changed jobs to avoid Damon, prioritizing her safety and peace, though she still harbors a desire for justice and hopes to connect with other victims.
• 🧠 She grapples with the spiritual manipulation Damon employed, questioning if his influence extends to her current feelings of inaction, while also acknowledging the possibility of simply being exhausted and burnt out.
• ✊ Stella remains determined to find justice eventually, either through legal means or by empowering other victims, emphasizing that the current system fails to adequately address such violations.