Savage Lovecast Ep 988: Shibari, Semen Lube, and Drag Queen Advice

Religious Scammers and Kinky Truths

• 💡 The episode begins with a discussion of a Florida mansion raid revealing forced laborers within a church, highlighting how religious leaders can exploit followers.
• ⚠️ Dan Savage draws a parallel between the victims' situation and kink dynamics, suggesting that consensual BDSM practices offer a safer alternative to religious exploitation.
• 🎯 He emphasizes that honest perversion, where desires are openly acknowledged and consensual, is always safer than being exploited by religious gurus.

Shibari, Open Relationships, and Boundaries

• ❓ A caller in an ethically non-monogamous relationship wants to make Shibari (Japanese rope bondage) a practice exclusive to her and her partner, but he is now hesitant.
• 🧠 Dan explains that while monogamizing a specific activity can be a sign of commitment, it might be impractical if the activity is common or if the partner wants to explore it with others to improve their skills.
• ⚖️ He advises the caller to understand her partner's reasons for wanting to explore Shibari with others and to consider how she will feel if he becomes highly skilled through those experiences.

Semen as Lubricant and STI Risks

• ❓ A caller asks about the STI risk of using semen as a lubricant on the penis and for oral sex.
• 🔬 Dan clarifies that the primary risk comes from STIs present in the semen, not the semen itself. He stresses the importance of STI testing for partners involved.
• ⚠️ He notes that while semen on the skin is less risky than ingestion or internal exposure, transmission of STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis is still possible, especially with micro-tears or open sores.

Navigating Bars and Communication Styles

• 🗣️ A gay caller struggles to approach men in bars, despite being confident in other sexual settings, and seeks advice.
• 👑 Guest Jackie Cox shares her experiences as a drag queen, noting that while in drag, she feels a performance pressure that can be exhausting, and often prefers to socialize out of drag.
• 🤝 Dan suggests that the caller might be an