r/Relationships: Wife Poaching, Inheritance Theft, and Age Gap Marriage Regrets

Navigating Unwanted Advances in Relationships

• 🎯 A man is uncomfortable after his wife's best friend and husband, with whom she previously had a threesome, express a desire to repeat the experience, specifically wanting the original wife to participate with the OP watching.
• ⚠️ The OP feels the situation has escalated to "wife poaching," a concept considered bad in swinging communities, and is unsure how to address his discomfort without ending his wife's friendship.

Betrayal and Financial Ruin

• 💔 A woman discovers her boyfriend of two years has been secretly selling inherited assets, including jewelry and precious metals, to cover his personal bills while she was working a demanding, travel-heavy job to save for their future.
• ⚡ The boyfriend confesses only after securing a stable job and planning to repay the stolen money, but the OP feels deeply violated and questions the future of their 12-year relationship.

Hobby Expenses and Lifestyle Differences

• ⛵ A 39-year-old woman is bothered by her 41-year-old boyfriend's expensive sailing hobby, which costs approximately $3,000 monthly, impacting their ability to move in together or enjoy shared splurges.
• ⚖️ She struggles with how to address the issue, feeling it's unfair to ask him to give up his long-standing hobby or stop saving, leading her to question if this is a sign of falling out of love.

Age Gap Marriage and Past Experiences

• 💍 A 27-year-old woman regrets her 16-year age gap marriage to her 43-year-old husband, whom she met when she was 22, feeling he pursued her when she was too young and now feels he's more of a parental figure.
• 💭 Despite financial stability and shared affection, she experiences a "resentful/ick feeling" and questions if her desire for independence and his past pursuit of her at a vulnerable age are irreconcilable.
• 💔 A 48-year-old woman is distressed by her husband's persistent insecurity about her not being a virgin when they met nearly 30 years ago, leading him to express a desire to "explore for himself" and potentially open their relationship.
• 😟 She fears the risks of an open relationship, including him finding someone else and the potential regret and pain for their family, especially with one child still a minor.