Reddit AITA: Bully Sister, Financial Infidelity, and Budgeting for Guests

Bully Sister and Family Dynamics

• 🎯 OP is an 18-year-old guy whose bully, Sadie (17), is revealed to be his half-sister through his father's affair.
• ⚠️ Sadie and her brother bullied OP for years, with Sadie continuing to harass him even after the affair was discovered.
• 💔 OP refuses to acknowledge Sadie as his sister or attend family functions where she will be present, despite pressure from his father's family.
• 🗣️ OP's mother has no compassion for Sadie due to the decade of torment and cyberbullying, including messages telling OP to kill himself.

Financial Infidelity and Trust Issues

• 👶 A couple planned for years to have one child, with OP's wife staying home full-time.
• 💰 The wife discovered her husband, who claimed to make $6,000/month after taxes, was actually taking home around $8,500 and hiding over $45,000 in a secret account.
• 💔 This financial deception, especially after planning to be a stay-at-home mom, has led the wife to distrust her husband and consider daycare and returning to work.
• ⚖️ The subreddit's judgment is that the husband is the primary butthole for financial infidelity and lying, while the wife is not the butthole for wanting to protect herself.

Budgeting for Guests and Entitlement

• 🏠 OP's son and his girlfriend, Carmela, moved in rent-free while the son found a job.
• 🍳 Carmela frequently cooks dinner, and OP initially provided groceries via her using OP's card.
• 💸 When Carmela's grocery requests escalated to expensive items like steak and seafood, OP decided to implement a budget for her cooking.
• 😠 OP's son became offended, arguing that OP embarrassed Carmela and should accommodate her for the few remaining weeks they are living there.
• 💰 The subreddit judges OP not to be the butthole, but rather the son for his entitlement and lack of contribution, as he is not paying rent despite having a job.

Undisclosed Inheritance and Family Planning

• 🎁 OP's deceased daughter left a trust for her two children (OP's grandchildren).
• 💰 OP and their husband decided to supplement this trust to ensure the grandchildren received a comfortable amount for college or career training.
• 🤫 This financial support was kept secret from the son-in-law to prevent him from prioritizing his other children or expecting the money to be split among all children.
• 😠 The son-in-law and his wife were furious upon learning about the undisclosed savings, feeling hurt and that they could have planned finances differently if informed.
• ✅ The subreddit's judgment is that OP is not the butthole, as the money was intended specifically for their grandchildren and not for general family planning.