My Boyfriend Encouraged My Stalker to Stalk Me | Reddit Relationship Advice – Key Moments & Summary

The Birthday Surprise and Initial Alarm

🎂 OP (28F) discovered her apartment decorated for her birthday with gifts from her ex, whom she had blocked.
🏠 Her boyfriend, Cole (29M), had let the ex into their shared apartment to set up the surprise, claiming he felt bad for the ex's efforts.
😟 OP felt unsafe and distrustful, questioning Cole's lack of concern about the ex's persistent, unwanted gestures.

🕵️‍♀️ Upon confrontation with OP and her brother, Cole admitted to stalking her stalker using fake social media accounts.
😈 Cole had been egging on the ex, encouraging him to continue pursuing OP and planting thoughts to prolong his misery.
🎮 Cole viewed this as a sick game, deriving satisfaction from watching the ex fail and waste money on gifts, while Cole consumed the gifts himself.
💔 OP realized Cole had been manipulating the ex, potentially exacerbating the stalking behavior, and that her fear was a byproduct of his game.

🏡 OP moved out of the apartment to stay with her brother and his girlfriend, demanding Cole leave within the week.
🚓 She filed a police report to document the events, though evidence collection was difficult due to discarded gifts.
💔 OP decided to end the relationship with Cole, recognizing his manipulative and twisted nature.

✉️ OP's brother contacted the ex (James), informing him of Cole's manipulation, which James seemed to believe.
⚠️ James expressed being shaken and apologized, promising to leave OP alone, though OP remained skeptical of his motives.
📱 Cole sent angry texts to OP after James was informed, revealing his distress and OP's lack of knowledge on how James obtained his number.

🏠 OP secured a new apartment and broke her lease, but still felt unsafe and anxious.
📸 A friend spotted Cole in the background of photos from a Halloween party attended by James, raising new paranoia about their potential connection.
🚫 OP decided to stay out of any further drama between James and Cole, focusing on her own safety and well-being.