Girlfriend Hides Past Lover, Leads to Breakup | Reddit Relationship Advice

Relationship Conflict Over Past Relationships

• 💡 A man (21M) is concerned because his girlfriend (20F) of five months is hiding the identity of someone she previously slept with, who will be present at a party they are both attending.
• 🎯 The girlfriend's evasiveness and refusal to disclose the person's identity, coupled with her calling him a "psycho" and lying about feeling ill, have led the original poster (OP) to feel disrespected and suspicious.
• 🔑 Despite OP's initial acceptance of her past, her secrecy and subsequent actions, including getting him uninvited from the party, have raised significant red flags.

The Breakup and Aftermath

• 💔 OP decides to end the relationship due to the girlfriend's dishonesty and gaslighting, stating that while he accepted her past, her reaction and secrecy were unacceptable.
• 🗣️ The girlfriend eventually reveals the person's identity and apologizes, claiming she only wanted to ensure a good night, but OP feels it's too late.
• 😔 OP acknowledges the difficulty of the breakup, especially given the girlfriend's mental health struggles, but believes it was the right decision due to her immaturity and the potential for future issues.

Family Disagreement Over Grandchildren

• 💔 A woman (32F) cancels Thanksgiving plans with her parents after they refer to her brother's new baby as their "first grandchild," excluding her three adopted children.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 OP has raised her wife's three children for years, considering them her own, and they view her parents as grandparents.
• 🚫 Her parents insist the new baby is their only grandchild, causing hurt to OP's children and leading OP to exclude her parents from Thanksgiving.

Family Dynamics and Priorities

• 🗣️ OP's parents refuse to acknowledge her adopted children as grandchildren, stating they are not their "real" children, despite OP legally adopting them.
• 🤝 OP's wife's sister-in-law, Sarah, attempts to de-escalate the situation, and OP's brother initially sides with their parents but later apologizes, wanting his daughter to have Thanksgiving with her cousins.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 OP prioritizes her children's feelings and well-being, deciding to host Thanksgiving without her parents, who she believes lack empathy and kindness towards her children.
• 💔 The situation highlights a conflict between biological ties and chosen family, with OP's parents' stance causing significant emotional distress to her children.