Future Brother-In-Law Demands Vintage Watch; Fiancee's Financial Trust Issues

The Vintage Watch Dispute

• 💍 OP, who is set to marry Sarah in 10 months, inherited a vintage watch from his grandfather, a family tradition for firstborn sons on their wedding day.
• ⏳ Ben, Sarah's brother, is getting married in 4 months and demanded to borrow the watch, claiming his wedding is first and he needs the good luck.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Ben's parents and Sarah initially sided with him, suggesting OP be flexible with the tradition, which OP found unreasonable as the watch has no connection to their family.
• 🗣️ After a heated argument with Sarah, where OP expressed concerns about her lack of support and the potential loss of the watch, they agreed to face Ben and her parents together.
• 🎁 As a compromise, OP considered buying Ben a new watch, but the community advised against rewarding entitled behavior, suggesting a honeymoon contribution instead.
• 🤝 During a meeting with Ben and Sarah's parents, OP stood his ground, emphasizing the watch's sentimental value and connection to his late father and grandfather.
• 🕊️ Ben eventually apologized, and the families agreed to a golf trip to resolve issues, with Sarah's mother offering wedding assistance, which OP found slightly off given a prenup is involved.

Fiancee's Financial Trust Issues

• 💸 OP is concerned about his fiancee Sarah lending money to her family without his consent, citing instances of her taking $500 from his account and using his credit card for $1,500 in car repairs.
• 🤝 Sarah believes helping family financially is normal and doesn't require prior discussion, but OP insists on transparency and mutual agreement, especially before marriage.
• 🚩 This behavior is seen as a breach of trust, with commenters advising OP to address it seriously, potentially through counseling, to avoid future marital problems.

Husband's Gift-Giving Dilemma

• 🎁 A wife struggled to find a gift for her husband, who is particular about brands, eventually choosing an expensive 3D puzzle of his favorite football club's stadium.
• 🤔 The husband suggested regifting the puzzle to his nephew, who also liked it, causing the wife to feel hurt and unappreciated, especially given her effort and pregnancy.
• 💡 Through communication, the husband revealed his mother's habit of regifting items, making him feel guilty about keeping gifts, which explained his behavior.
• 🤝 The couple had a calm discussion, apologized to each other, and decided to shop for his birthday gift together, with the husband expressing genuine appreciation for the puzzle.
• 👟 The husband later gifted his nephew new shoes and money for a school trip, indicating he could have offered these instead of the puzzle.