Boyfriend's Insecurities Lead to Demeaning Behavior and a Messy Breakup

Story 1: College Graduate Belittled

• 🚩 A woman's boyfriend of six months repeatedly belittles her for attending college, calling it a waste of money and a scam.
• 💡 He claims one learns nothing real in college and that hard work is more valuable, despite her explaining the necessity of higher education for professions like doctors.
• ⚠️ The boyfriend, who has a high school diploma, seems to resent her educational achievements and career prospects, making comments about her marrying a doctor for money.
• 🚩 He exhibits extreme insecurity, becoming paranoid about her past sexual history due to her college attendance and even suggesting she might have a porn tape.
• 🚩 A particularly alarming comment involved him wanting to get her pregnant so a part of him would remain if they broke up, insisting he could change her mind about not wanting children.
• ✅ The OP, realizing the relationship's cons outweighed the pros, decided to end it and successfully broke up with him in a public park with a friend present.
• 🚩 Following the breakup, the ex-boyfriend engaged in harassing behavior, including sending a sexually explicit photo and making abusive calls and texts, leading the OP to change her number and enhance home security.

Story 2: Religious Insensitivity During Grief

• 💔 A woman's boyfriend of a few months displayed extreme insensitivity by initiating a religious debate with her sister shortly after their father's death.
• 💡 The OP and her boyfriend are atheists, but her family is Christian and accepting of her beliefs.
• 🚩 The boyfriend responded to the sister's comment about their deceased father being at peace with God by saying, "You're entitled to your opinion. I just don't feel the same way," and then escalated it into a debate.
• 🚩 The OP views this behavior as a dealbreaker, noting his tendency to be judgmental, lazy, unemployed, and to complain about his circumstances without taking action.
• 🚩 He previously guilt-tripped her for not buying him an expensive gift when they were new, despite his own cheap gift to her.
• ✅ The OP decided to end the relationship, confronting him about his behavior towards her sister.
• 🚩 He initially apologized, blaming alcohol, but then argued that the breakup wasn't valid because it was made in anger and wasn't mutual, attempting to hold her hostage in the relationship.
• ✅ The OP stood her ground, asserting that a breakup doesn't need to be mutual and that no one can be held hostage in a relationship, ultimately ending it despite his tears and excuses.
• 💡 The OP reflects that he likely stayed with her due to her financial security and achievements, which he lacked.
• ⚠️ The OP has since blocked him on all platforms and is taking steps to ensure her safety, including reporting his behavior to the police.