Boyfriend's Financial Domination Fetish and Abusive Behavior

Financial Domination and Deception

• 💡 The original poster (OP) discovered her boyfriend's involvement in financial domination (Findom), where he sent money to women who dominated his finances.
• 💔 Despite promises to stop and deleting accounts, he continued the behavior, leading to OP's discovery through snooping.
• ⚠️ The boyfriend admitted to having a problem and expressed remorse, leading to an ultimatum from OP.
• 📱 OP later found evidence of paid videos and negative comments about her, indicating continued deception.

Relationship Breakdown and Financial Debt

• 💔 The relationship ultimately ended after OP discovered the boyfriend's continued deceit and significant debt, totaling $15,000 from sending money to multiple doms.
• 🗣️ The boyfriend claimed he was glad to be with a dom who made him happy and felt free, while also stating he felt OP didn't understand him.
• 🚩 The dom involved was described as manipulative and an amateur, giving actual doms a bad name.
• 💔 OP realized the boyfriend was not changing and was deeply addicted, leading her to end the relationship.

Exploitation of Disability

• ⚠️ A second story details a boyfriend who used OP's poor eyesight and glasses to initiate intimacy, making her feel demeaned and humiliated.
• 👓 He would take her glasses, making her dependent and unable to function, and even broke them in an act of punishment.
• 💔 OP expressed feeling vulnerable and that her dependence was being exploited, leading to a loss of trust and safety.

Pattern of Abusive Behavior

• 😠 A third story describes a boyfriend who exhibited a pattern of lashing out, minimizing his actions, and gaslighting OP, particularly when drinking.
• 🗣️ He would aggressively correct her and then later apologize vaguely, promising to stop drinking and fix things, but the behavior persisted.
• 😥 OP felt humiliated, confused, and emotionally exhausted by the repeated cycle of conflict and apologies.
• 🚩 The consensus is that this behavior is a personality trait and unlikely to change, suggesting leaving the relationship.