Boyfriend Won't Work: Is This a Deal Breaker for a High-Earning Surgeon?

The Core Issue: Lack of Work Ethic

• 💡 The central question is whether a boyfriend's refusal to work is a dealbreaker, especially when the partner is a high-earning surgeon making $280,000-$500,000 annually.
• 🎯 The boyfriend, an actor, has earned less than $23,000 in the past year with only two days of work, not qualifying for union health insurance.
• 🔑 The boyfriend believes he shouldn't contribute to the mortgage since the house will be in the surgeon's name, highlighting a potential financial imbalance and lack of shared responsibility.

Perceptions of Partnership and Attraction

• 🧠 The surgeon finds it unattractive that her boyfriend lacks initiative and a strong work ethic, contrasting with her own demanding career.
• 💔 She expresses that while she's not against his acting dream, the absence of any effort or supplementary work (like waiting tables) is a significant concern.
• 💬 The surgeon admits she is not