Boyfriend Asks Parents for Permission to Marry, Then Lies About Girlfriend's Identity

Story 1: Proposal and Parental Betrayal

• 💔 OP, who has been no-contact with her parents since age 16 due to severe child abuse, was proposed to by her boyfriend on their second anniversary.
• 💍 The boyfriend used OP's grandmother's ring, which was in her parents' possession, after secretly contacting and visiting her parents to ask for permission to marry OP.
• 🚩 OP felt this was a massive violation of trust and boundaries, leading her to tell him to leave, though she didn't formally break up with him.
• 🗣️ The boyfriend's justification included the importance of tradition, family, and his belief that OP's parents were nice people who had given him a plausible, albeit false, story about her past.
• 🤝 OP's ex-husband, who was aware of the situation, intervened and told the boyfriend to leave, after which OP ended the relationship.

Story 2: Pretending to be Single

• ❓ OP's boyfriend of nearly two years pretended she was just a roommate and that he was single while she was standing right behind him at a friend's birthday party.
• 😠 OP was deeply hurt and felt disrespected, especially after her friend confirmed the boyfriend had also told someone else he was single.
• 📱 After OP left the party, the boyfriend texted and called her, initially angry that she had left him, demanding an explanation as if she had done something wrong.
• 🤥 He initially denied saying anything, claiming he had no memory or that his friend was lying, but eventually admitted he enjoyed the attention from other girls due to his own insecurities.
• 💔 Despite his apologies and pleas, OP ended the relationship, stating that his actions made her feel worthless and that she deserved a partner who was proud to be with her and wouldn't seek external validation.