Beyond Feelings: A New Perspective on Building True Confidence

Redefining Confidence

• 💡 Confidence is often misunderstood as merely a feeling or a temporary emotional state.
• 🎯 The speaker argues that the feeling of confidence is actually the last and least important part of true confidence.
• 🔑 A new perspective is offered, suggesting confidence is more than a feeling and can be built as a foundation.

The Limitations of Traditional Thought Work

• 🧠 Historically, confidence has been taught as a feeling created by thoughts, and changing negative thoughts was the focus.
• ⚠️ While thought work is valuable, simply applying positive thoughts over existing negative ones (like "putting lipstick on a pig") is ineffective.
• 💬 This approach can lead to disappointment and a belief that thought work itself is powerless.

Confidence Beyond Insecurity

• 🚫 Confidence is not just the absence of insecurity or negative self-talk.
• 📉 Women are socialized to lack confidence in various life areas, including relationships, work, decision-making, perception, and finances.
• 🏦 Even outward success doesn't always equate to internal confidence, indicating a deeper issue.

A Deeper, Transformative Confidence

• 🚀 True confidence is not just about eliminating insecurity but about moving from "good to great" and actively pursuing potential.
• ⚡ It involves building a bedrock of belief in oneself, not just chasing ephemeral positive emotions.
• 🧩 Deep confidence requires tolerating discomfort, taking risks, and evolving, which may not always feel good.
• 🛠️ It's a mindset, a way of being, and a relationship with oneself, not solely a fleeting feeling.

Cultivating Lasting Confidence

• ✨ Confidence is a way of being in relation with yourself that transforms your life.
• 📈 The speaker is distilling this mindset into four specific skills to create confidence as a foundation, not just a temporary feeling.
• 🎓 Further learning and community support are available through the Feminist Self-Help Society for applying these concepts.