Am I the Asshole? Family Inheritance, Bathroom Etiquette, Black Tax, and Ex-Husband Drama

Inheritance Dispute

• 🏠 OP inherited a house from her grandmother, which was left to her specifically, not to be shared.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Her father and his second family, who had been living in the house rent-free, expected to inherit it and freaked out when they learned it was solely OP's.
• 💸 OP, who is struggling with student loans and working two jobs, refused to share the house, offering them only three months to find new accommodation.
• 🗣️ Extended family pressured OP to share or let them stay longer, calling her selfish and heartless for prioritizing her own financial stability.

Bathroom Etiquette and Boundaries

• 🚽 OP's sister and brother-in-law stayed with her, but the brother-in-law monopolized the bathroom for extended periods due to a medical condition.
• 🤢 After a week of issues, including OP having to urinate in a sink due to the bathroom being occupied for an hour at 4 AM, she asked them to book a hotel.
• 🚫 Her sister and brother-in-law called her ableist, but OP stood her ground, stating she also has needs and requires her own bathroom when traveling.

Black Tax and Financial Boundaries

• 💰 A 28-year-old African woman, working as a teacher, is expected to pay 'black tax' by supporting her extended family financially.
• 💳 This includes covering groceries, school fees, sending money to her mother, and contributing to bills, car repairs, and a cousin's wedding.
• 🛑 She decided to stop, wanting to save for her own future (therapy, travel, apartment deposit), and told her family she's not a bank.
• 💔 Her decision led to her mother crying and her aunt calling her whitewashed, while her brother accused her of being selfish.

Ex-Husband and Sister Drama

• 💔 OP's ex-husband left her for a younger colleague six years ago, and they divorced quickly.
• 👯‍♀️ She recently discovered her sister has been best friends with the ex-husband's new wife for six years, keeping it a secret.
• 💸 In response, OP cut off her sister completely and stopped paying her college loans, despite her parents agreeing with the sister.
• 🏠 Another OP shared a similar situation where her ex-husband and his new wife belittled her, telling her she was 'nobody special or important,' while the kids eventually chose to live with OP and cut contact with their father and stepmother.

Job Probation and Termination

• 🤝 OP's friend was struggling in her probationary period at a job, and OP, wanting to help her financially, transferred her to her own team.
• 😬 OP did not inform her friend that she was on the verge of being fired due to personality clashes with her supervisor.
• 📉 The friend's behavior continued to cause issues on OP's team, leading to her being placed on a 'nerf list,' ineligible for rehire, which OP feels is partly the friend's fault for her poor workplace conduct.