Am I The Asshole? Coworker Fired, iPad Passcodes, Stolen Alcohol, and Cruel Mothers

Coworker Harassment and Vacation Dispute

• 🎯 OP was reported by a new coworker, Haley, for not canceling her pre-approved vacation in December.
• 📧 Haley emailed OP's boss with an itemized timeline of OP's time off, which OP found intrusive and infuriating.
• 🗣️ During a meeting with their boss, Haley accused OP of hating children and retaliating because her vacation request was denied due to OP's absence.
• 🚨 OP escalated the situation to HR, citing harassment and slander, after Haley continued to spread rumors and attempted to revoke OP's paid time off.
• 📄 Haley is now facing an HR meeting and likely termination, with OP's coworker and friend suggesting OP overreacted.

iPad Gifting and Parental Control

• 🎁 OP's daughter-in-law, Daisy, has a history of selling expensive gifts intended for her children.
• 📱 To prevent Daisy from selling them, OP set up iPads for the grandchildren with a password-protected settings app.
• 😠 Daisy was angered by the password protection, viewing it as OP overstepping boundaries.
• 🏠 The advice given is to keep the iPads at OP's house and distrust Daisy due to her past actions.

Stolen Sentimental Alcohol

• 💔 OP's husband gave away an expensive bottle of sake and a German wine that OP had explicitly stated were not to be shared.
• 🚫 OP had multiple clear conversations with her husband, stating a strict no to him giving away the sentimental items.
• 🤷 The husband claimed he forgot and doesn't remember unimportant things, despite OP having provided him with separate alcohol for his friends.
• 🚩 OP is upset by her husband's boundary violation and nonchalant attitude, with the advice suggesting he may have acted intentionally to hurt her.

Confronting a Cruel Mother

• 💔 OP, a recovering addict and grieving mother, was visited uninvited by her unsupportive mother while having dinner with her new boyfriend.
• 🗣️ OP's mother made condescending remarks about her boyfriend's finances and then cruelly revealed OP's past addiction and the death of her baby to him.
• 💥 OP reacted with extreme anger, verbally confronting her mother and kicking her out of the house.
• 🚫 Following the incident, OP blocked her mother and received criticism from her sister for being disrespectful.
• ✅ OP's boyfriend has been supportive, validating her reaction and not judging her past.

Traditional Marriage Debate

• 🧐 OP's friend's boyfriend ranted about women no longer wanting to be traditional wives.
• ⚖️ OP argued that he couldn't expect a traditional wife when he and his friend were splitting bills 50/50 and the friend worked more hours.
• 🗣️ OP stated he wasn't a traditional husband and couldn't provide for a household, suggesting he wanted a "mommy" rather than a wife.
• 😬 The boyfriend was upset and embarrassed, demanding an apology, while OP believes she was justified in her response.
• 🤔 The friend felt OP was not entirely wrong but should have let the boyfriend talk, especially since he had been drinking.