AITA: Family Disowns Son for Addiction, Wants Back in for Grandson

OP's Addiction and Family Disownment

• 💔 In 2020, OP stole electronics from his family to fund a heroin addiction, leading to his discovery and subsequent rehab.
• 🚫 After rehab, OP's family disowned him, cutting off all contact and threatening to do the same to extended family who supported him.
• 🏠 Left homeless, OP rebuilt his life over three years, securing a good job, getting married, and having a son.

Family's Sudden Re-entry

• 👶 Upon learning of OP's son, his parents began demanding to meet the child, framing it as OP owing them forgiveness and a chance to reconnect.
• 🗣️ OP firmly rejected their demands, stating they were not part of his and his son's lives due to their abandonment during his lowest point.
• 📞 OP and his wife decided to have a video call with his parents to discuss the past five years and their current standing.

Father's Perspective and Legacy

• 🇨🇳 OP's father, an immigrant who valued the American dream, had a vision of passing down his business as a legacy to his son and grandson.
• 🎓 He viewed OP's bisexuality and dropping out of college as ungratefulness, but the drug abuse was the ultimate betrayal, deeming OP untrustworthy for the family legacy.
• 👨‍👦 The father expressed that OP owed him gratitude and that his parents needed to step in to raise OP's son properly to fulfill the legacy, as OP had ruined his dream.

OP's Resolution and Future

• 🤝 The video call with the father was unproductive, with the father's stance remaining unchanged, leading OP's wife to end the conversation.
• 💖 OP is deeply grateful for his wife's support and plans to focus on their family, reducing his work hours for more therapy and coping mechanisms.
• 🚫 OP and his wife decided their parents would not be part of their son's life for the foreseeable future and plan to choose a new family name for a fresh start.

AITA: Husband's Rude Friend at Thanksgiving

• 🍽️ OP's husband's friend, Craig, has a history of rude behavior at family gatherings, including complaining about dishes and showing up hours late.
• 🎁 Craig also brought unwanted items, like a pie when desserts were already made, and made condescending remarks about OP's cooking.
• 🤷 OP's husband initially defended Craig, attributing his behavior to their friendship dynamic, but OP felt disrespected.

Thanksgiving Update and Resolution

• 🚫 After OP's initial post, her husband decided not to invite Craig to Thanksgiving to avoid stressing her out.
• 🎉 Instead, they invited other friends and family, and despite guests arriving late, OP had a good time without any insults.
• 🦃 OP reflected on a dry turkey, attributing it to too many ventilation holes in a cooking bag, and plans to adjust for future cooking.