Girlfriend's Ex Warns of BFF: Should OP Be Worried? | Reddit Relationship Advice

Story 1: The Overbearing BFF

• 🚩 OP's girlfriend's 32-year-old male BFF, who has known her for 8 years, is suspected by OP and her ex to be in love with her.
• 👫 The BFF frequently makes comments about being soulmates and the one who will make her happiest, and OP feels like a third wheel when the BFF joins their dates.
• 🗣️ OP's girlfriend's ex warned OP to be careful of the BFF, a warning OP now agrees with due to the BFF's constant demands on her time.
• 💔 Despite multiple conversations, the girlfriend doesn't shut down the BFF forcefully, leading OP to feel like his comfort is being sacrificed.
• 💔 Ultimately, OP decides to break up with his girlfriend after realizing that talking about the issue five times with no change was futile.

Story 2: Friendship Boundaries and Trust

• ❓ OP (30F) is questioned by her best friend (29F) about potentially sleeping with a mutual friend, Aaron (30M), with whom she had a brief past situationship 8 years ago.
• 🚫 OP refuses to give a 100% guarantee she won't sleep with Aaron, stating she's not planning to but dislikes her potential relationships being policed.
• ✈️ The best friend cancels a planned trip to visit Aaron due to OP's refusal to make an absolute promise, citing anxiety and a lack of trust.
• 🚩 OP reveals a history of her friend trying to restrict her relationships, including asking her to step back from a guy she was interested in (who she later dated) and giving her the silent treatment over another past interest.
• 🤝 OP clarifies that her desire to connect with Aaron was not romantic but to find someone who could relate to her recent breakup from a 9-year relationship, as her other friends are all in long-term relationships.
• 🗣️ After further discussion, the friend admits she panicked, interpreting OP's conversation as preparation to hook up with Aaron, and the trip is back on, though OP remains uncomfortable with the policing of her relationships.